12 days of dreaming - day 5

Warning: goal setting may be dangerous to your health, it doesn’t always work and it may even be self destructive!

Here’s a dreaming skill that is so powerful it scares the pants off me.

Why?
Because asking these few simple questions has literally caused me to re-look all my goals for next year!

I could say, help! This is turning my life upside down!
Or I could say, hey, at last I’m getting clarity.

Isn’t is funny how so many people try to tell you the same thing and you just don’t get it. Then finally someone says this exact same thing in a slightly different way and this is what makes the light bulb go off in your head!

Here’s the technique. I touched on it on day 3. It’s from Jack Zufelt.

Jack makes a rather radical claim:
‘Goal setting not only does NOT work but it's negative and self-destructive for you.!’

Why does Jack say this? Because, to get what you want you first have to know what you want! When we don’t really know what we want we sets goals and don’t achieve them, Then, when we don’t reach these goals we feel like double failures. Or, even worse, we bust a gut achieving our goal only to discover that it wasn't quite what we wanted anyway. (you cna read about my experience of this right at the beginning of this blog site, 12 March 2007.)

Usually we don’t really know what we want because as children we have been shamed or told not to be so ambitious so we settle for lower, safer dreams and then we wonder why we can’t get all fired up about them.

Step one is, what really fires you up? What big dream do you want so badly that you’ll secretly do anything to get it? (Often we won’t own up to this dream because it’s been smashed as a child. Then we try to fulfil this dream in a round about way….eg. I’ll do this when I’m financially free or when I retire or after I’ve had 20 years therapy ….or …in my next life! )

What is your one core dream? Your unique spark? The highest expression
of who you are? What is the one thing that only you can offer the world? Something that you love doing more than anything else?

Usually, this is clearly defined in your fingerprints. But Jack has another method that will take you to the same point.

The only thing that really fuels us to achieve anything is desire. If your desire isn’t big enough you will not succeed. The trick is to connect with your deep core desire.

Whenever you set a goal or have a desire, ask yourself: how badly do I want this?

How can you tell if you really want something?

Find out what it takes to reach this goal. Then ask yourself, are you prepared to pay this price?

For example, to get a black belt in karate takes about 1 hour a day of training for 5 years. Are you prepared to pay this price? If you are not prepared to pay the price then take this dream off your list. Mostly we don’t find out what the cost is. We have the dream for years, we say our affirmations but we are not willing to take the steps necessary to make the journey.

To identify your core desires, Jack suggests the following technique:
Name your biggest goal for the coming year.
If you are not sure what this is then ask, what would I like to have that I’m not getting right now?
Then ask, if I had that, what would it give me that I’m not getting right now?

Keep asking this same question until you get to your core desire.

Once you find out what your core goal is all you need is a teacher.

To find out more about Jack’s techniques go here: The DNA of Success.

(Of course there’s an easier way. Just check your fingerprints. It’s all there!)

Happy dreaming!

Did I forget to tell you, your life purpose is visible in your fingerprints.
(Now why didn’t someone tell me this years ago?
Or rather, why didn’t I believe it!?)
;)
To find out what your hands say about your core desires go here

So, what does this have to do with the number 5?
Ummm… 5 fingers??

To further inspire you to dream big dreams for yourself:
here are 5 versions of Marianne Williamson’s famous quote:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv4mlFxLD90
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxRLhn188mI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jiv9IPOAgZk
http://youtube.com/watch?v=n8ACfpPn0MY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TBzVy8xe02o

... and in case you're sitting in the fog right now like half of Switzerland is,
here are 5 silly variations on the 12 days of Christmas:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owK5tHjL0aE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VraaEaOzYQ&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Fe11OlMiz8&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7d9X8CJkklI&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DsOvjxwAaN4

Summary of 12 days of dreaming
Day 1 - ‘as a man thinketh’ ebook download
Day 2 - the most important quote this millennium
Day 3 - parable of the three big rocks Day 4 - making decisions
Day 5 - finding your core desire
Day 6 - knowing your conscious mind
Day 7 – the seven laws of the universe
Day 8 – how to change your luckDay 9 – your nine environments
Day 10- tapping into your genius mind
Day 11 - stepping beyond your comfort zone
Day 12 - the 12 month, 24 hour grace shower

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The 12 days of dreaming - day 3

I've been thinking about this 12 day thing...
I must be mad!
How am I going to keep this up?
; )

Also, what does Christmas mean to many of the people on
this planet? Am I being exclusionary? Hopefully not!

So......rethink!

Actually, this is about Winter solstice, the rebirth of the sun
in the Northern Hemisphere, the start of a New Year and the
big dreaming that each of us needs to do to dream up our next
12 months and beyond.
(How this impacts on those of you in the Southern Hemisphere
I have no idea. We live in a global village and share the same calendar,
so in a sense it does apply. Maybe mark your own Winter Solstice (end June)
in your calendar and redo this dreaming then for extra effect.
As they say in the classics: what doesn't kill fattens! It certainly won't do any harm!)

Anyway, back to our 12 days of dreaming.

Today is the third day of dreaming.

Today I bring you the parable of the three big rocks:

(I got this from Jenna Avery, who got it from Sonia Choquette
who got it from Stephen Covey, author of The Seven Habits of
Highly Effective People who got it from.....)

Three Big Rocks
A time management guru put a large wide-mouthed jar on the table.
Then he put 3 large rocks carefully into the jar. When the jar was packed to the top,
he asked, "Is this jar full?"
Everyone watching said, "Yes."

"Really?" he said, and began to add pebbles into the jar.
The group watched as the pebbles worked themselves down into the spaces
between the big rocks. Then he asked again, "Is this jar full?"
By this time, the group had caught on. "Maybe not," they said. "Good!" he answered.
Then he added sand to the jar and filled in the spaces left between the rocks and the pebbles. Again he asked, "Is this jar full?" "No!" they shouted.
"Good!" said the guru. Then he took a jug of water and began to pour water into the jar until it was full to the brim.

"What's the point?" he asked?
Someone said, "No matter how full your schedule is,
if you try really hard you can always fit more things in."

"No," said the guru. "The Truth is: If you don't put the big rocks in first, you will never get them in at all!"

We have to pick out what our "Big Rocks" are , organize our priorities around those, and only then look at what else we want to add into the remaining spaces of our lives.

So how do we do this?

Focus on manifesting no more than 3 big things in the coming year. Let everything else fit in around these 3 main goals.

One big rock for health, one big rock for wealth, one big rock for happiness.

Part 2 of this email: Getting to the core of your goals:

Are your goals really what you want?

"The hand will not reach what the heart does not long for."

With each goal ask this question: If I achieved this goal what would it give me that I don't have now? Then ask, if I had this quality what would it give me that I don't have now?
Keep asking this question till you get to the source of whatyour heart really desires.
Warning: if you don't do this exercise the goals you set might be taking you don't the wrong path! (This technique comes from Jack Zufelt. I'll discuss this in more detail on day 5.)

To explore your big dreams more, and what you have come to this planet
to accomplish, consider having your hands analysed in the coming year.

Happy dreaming!

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Summary of 12 days of dreaming

Day 1 - ‘as a man thinketh’ ebook download
Day 2 - the most important quote this millennium
Day 3 - parable of the three big rocks Day 4 - making decisions
Day 5 - finding your core desire
Day 6 - knowing your conscious mind
Day 7 – the seven laws of the universe
Day 8 – how to change your luckDay 9 – your nine environments
Day 10- tapping into your genius mind
Day 11 - stepping beyond your comfort zone
Day 12 - the 12 month, 24 hour grace shower

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